How much is too much? Where do we draw the line? How do we say “No” and mean it?

Saying “No” is about setting boundaries for yourself. As a woman, it was likely instilled in you, at an early age, to be helpful. But as we grew older we often wonder, where do we draw the line? It may sometimes be awkward to set healthy boundaries, but it is an important skill to learn.  If someone has unrealistic expectations of you or is unable to respect your feelings remember “No” is a complete sentence.

In this workshop you will learn that:

  • Coming to the aid of another human being is wired into us and further reinforced through cultural upbringing. In other words, we can’t help but want to help—a crying baby, the sick and defenseless, someone bitten by bad luck. So many situations arouse natural sympathy, and our parents raised us to be kind and thoughtful on top of that.
  • There are limits, especially in today’s world where there are so many demands on one’s attention.
  • We often don’t say no because we feel guilty. Guilt (emotion), an emotion that occurs when a person believes that they have violated a moral standard that they themselves believe in.
  • While it is commendable for one to feel sorry for another’s predicament, that doesn’t mean we have to fix his or her problem.

At the end of the workshop you will have chosen the boundaries you wish to set, declared them, and determined how to enforce them.